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The Challenge for a Spiritual Warrior to overcome your mind, false beliefs, and emotional reactions

 

Guidance

My teaching varies from person to person.  It is principally focuses at being happy in every moment of your life.  To do this we focus in two directions at the same time.  One direction involves the practices that will foster happiness, love, and abundance in your life.  The other direction involves the inventory and dismantling of agreements that bind us to thoughts, beliefs, and behaviors, which keep us in suffering.  While each person’s journey is unique, they have these two elements.

 

Each person’s process through each of these directions is unique, and I endeavor to make each person’s journey both interesting, and as enjoyable as possible.  It makes no sense to use our process of self discovery and transformation for drama, this is exactly what we intend to eliminate from our lives.  Believe it or not, this inner work can be fun.  But don’t confuse fun with easy.  This journey is most certainly challenging.

 

My guidance involves various practices in awareness, meditations, dreaming, stalking, (tracking) forgiveness,  and intent.  It also includes anything else that comes into my awareness of what will work for a person in their particular situation.  I am continually inspired to come up with new exercises and actions to transform individual’s lives.  

 

The guidance I give is to help each person make himself or herself strong and self reliant in their happiness.  My apprentices are free when they no longer need me or anyone else for their happiness.  Of course, they are free to go anytime they wish.  They are also free to return anytime they wish.  (providing I am still taking students at that time.)

 

The long distance apprentice work through phone sessions is typically done twice a month.  Occasionally we may talk between sessions if a surprise presents itself, or if a practice requires clarity.  Emails are also exchanged in between for lesser critical questions.  A valuable aspect to this process is the personal contact we can have.  This can be in the form of workshops, power journeys, or individual time together.  While we can do a great deal over the phone, the opportunities created in power journeys and workshops, cannot be duplicated. 

 

One thing needs to be clear.  I do not do therapy sessions where I listen to people’s stories.  That does not interest me.  This does not mean that I do not listen.  I do listen intently, but more for the underlying agreements holding the story of drama together.  I am interested in working with people that want to change the story of their life, not repeat it to another. 

 

I’m not quite sure where to put the notice, so I will put it here.  It has also become my experience that individuals who engage in this work have experienced tremendous change in their life.  Be aware that tremendous life change may occur in the company of such change agents.  This change may sometimes be uncomfortable.  At times it is even painful to realize how we have lived in such lies.  While it is painful to realize, it is more painful to continue to live in them.

 

The Teacher - Student Relationship

I see my students as my friends. Yes, we have a financial agreement, but that is not how I see them. We also get together for movies, dinner, social outings, and have fun.  No one is any better than any one else.  And no one is any less than anyone else.  I don’t put myself above my students, and I don’t want anyone to put themselves below me.  This means not putting the teacher on a pedestal. 

 

Each person’s dream of his or her life is a work of art.  We are all practicing artists.  I have practiced to become skillful at living my life in gratitude, love, and integrity.    If others want to learn the art that I have mastered, then I am happy to share how to create your own life as a beautiful work of art.  The teacher/student relationship is similar to a student of music or sculpting studying with a accomplished artist.  The student’s agreement is with themselves to master the craft of creating beautiful art with their life.  The teacher’s agreement is with the student to help the student to master the craft of creating beautiful art with their life.  Their intent is the same, and together the intent is much stronger than the student’s alone.

 


Our Focus in this Work

What is it about your life that you want to change? Whatever it is, my commitment is to help guide you to change your dream to one that you enjoy.  When I took the journey, my commitment was simple.  I wanted to be happy.  You have no commitment to me. I can make suggestions or offer exercises, assignments, and actions to take. But you have no obligation to do anything I say.

In that regard, I am not attached to whether you do anything I suggest. My commitment is to support you whatever you do or don’t do, no matter how fast or slow the progress. That means my complete respect and acceptance of you as you are.  Some may find that this complete acceptance of themselves will change them as fast as anything they do. Happiness in life is completely possible.  It is possible to be happy with yourself and everything in your life.  With your action, supported with proper guidance, it can happen very quickly.   

 

Attitude

You can take this journey very seriously, but you don't have to take yourself seriously.   If you do, your steps will become heavy and the journey longer. Laughing at yourself will make you lighthearted, and your steps will become lighter. Then the journey will go much faster and be more enjoyable.  If we laugh at ourselves, the work is the same, but the attitude will make for a completely different journey. 

Generally, I laugh a lot, and encourage it often.

 

 

Chemical Substances or Power Plants?

 There are many stories of teachers using substances to break people’s perception.  If you wish to have power plant or hallucinogenic experiences, then that's what you choose.   I suggest you find someone that teaches in the way you want to learn. I don't work with power plants, nor do I suggest the use of chemical substances.  When one uses chemicals or plants to alter ones dream, we often give up our power to the substance.  The truth is that each individual has extraordinary power.  However, we often use our power to limit our perception.  The way I teach is to use what power we have to break our limits of perception.  By doing this we recover more of our personal power.  With more personal power, we can break even more of our limiting beliefs.  In this way one reclaims their own personal power and does not need the use of substances.     

For me it's not about experiences of “other realities”; it's about ending suffering in one's life, being happy, and living in heaven on earth.  If you are able to live completely present in the moment, without the distraction of the mitote in the mind, you will find a whole reality right there.  Once you experience living in the extraordinary reality of life as it is in the present moment, you no longer have the desire to go to those other dreams.

 

Long Distance Support

I am not a motivator and I am not here to inspire you. Not my job. If you really want to change something in your life, that is all the motivation needed. If you don't want to change something, then I don’t want to work to change it against your will. I will offer the tools to use and the exercises, but you will have to use them and practice them. I will open the doors.  You will have to walk through them.

The mix of phone calls, emails, and dream work, will be determined. I'm sure we can find a mix of means that will support the journey. The most important part of the transformation process will be the practice of the homework assignments. These will help you to change your dream the fastest.


The Bottom Line 

I entered into this work because I wanted to be happy.  I had no idea what I didn’t know. If we are to change our life, we will end up changing our thinking, emotional state, behaviors, and our point of view.  I was skilled in what the world had taught me in terms of academic skills and career.  But nowhere had I been educated about transforming my behavior, emotional state, or my own thoughts. 

 

Yet these are the things that we must do if we are to be happy, and Love unconditionally.

 

These are the truly worthwhile things in our life.   On our death bed, we will not wonder if we made enough money, had the right job, or if people will remember us.  The bottom line question in that most bottom line of moments is, “Did I love well?”

 

The Battle Ground

As Spiritual Warriors the war we are fighting to win is for our personal freedom.  Personal freedom is the freedom from fear, freedom from judgment, freedom from suffering, and the freedom to live our life with gratitude, love, happiness and justice.  We are battling against our beliefs and knowledge that make us suffer.  The battleground is in our mind.  It is in the corrupt knowledge of the belief system that brings us into emotional suffering.  This corruption exists in our own mind; yet, we must use our own mind in order to heal the very thing that is corrupt.  This makes the task at hand extremely difficult on our own.  This is why the apprentice warrior may seek a guide assist in the journey.

 

The guide is not better than the apprentice, nor is the apprentice better than the guide.  At least this is true in the world of the guide where no one is better or worse than anyone else.  When the apprentice places the guide on a pedestal of reverence above himself/herself, the apprentice is placing himself/ herself below someone else.  In doing so, he/she has unconsciously made the agreement to see him/herself as less than some one else.  This is an obstacle that could cost the apprentice, or the guide, their personal freedom.

 

However, this very act of respecting another, can help the apprentice learn to see through different eyes.  By practicing this respect, they have an opportunity to achieve it for themselves.  In this way they raise themselves up to the level of the guide.  With practice, they will be able to see everyone with this deep level of respect.  Their task is not to take the teacher off the pedestal, but to raise their point of view of seeing to see themselves and everyone else through those same eyes. 

This is one of the minor obstacles and progressions of having a guide teach the apprentice.  There are many obstacles to our freedom along the way.  

 

Overcoming the Obstacle of Fear

The path of the Spiritual Warrior is through the major obstacles of fear, clarity, power, and knowledge.  In the beginning of the journey, fear is the biggest challenger.  Fear keeps us from expressing our own love.  Fear keeps us from taking risks and living the life we want.  These fears manifest in many ways, fear of failure, or the fear of what someone else will think of us.

To just win over our fear changes our life in extraordinary ways.  Even if we just win over some of our fears, our lives are filled with more enjoyment.  To win completely over fear requires a strong commitment to heal the emotional body.  In our emotional bodies we only perceive two types of emotions: the emotions that come from fear, and the emotions that come from love.  If we are to live with more love in our lives, then we must eliminate the fear that we are living with.

By overcoming fear, we eliminate the most emotionally painful and disturbing part of our mitote.  When we overcome the remaining  obstacles, we no longer live are a subject to the mitote of internal dialogue in our mind.  

 

Characteristics of a Warrior

To win the war against fear requires awareness, courage, and commitment to heal the emotional body.  These are some of the characteristics of a Warrior. 

 

The first and most vital tool of the warrior is awareness.  It is easy to we think we are aware, but pure awareness has no thinking involved.  It has no thinking because it has no interpretation.  Awareness is to perceive with clarity the truth of what is happening in our dream (world or life). It occurs without an explanation of words.  When we “see” the truth of what is happening we have an opportunity to change it.  When we try to change something and it doesn’t change, then we do not have real clarity of what the problem is.  We assume or “think, “we “know”, but we have only partial clarity. In these cases we are often projecting our assumptions onto the pattern.  In a real moment of awareness the dialogue in the mind stops.  We are “seeing” from a point or view beyond the reasoning part of our mind.  This could be described as an epiphany.  Practiced seer’s live in this awareness in every moment.

 

The characteristics that make for a good soldier also make for a good Spiritual Warrior, but the intent becomes completely different.  A soldier's courage to attack and destroy another is redirected as the courage to question and dissolve  his or her own beliefs.  By challenging our own beliefs we can dissolve the ones that our cause our suffering. To challenge our own beliefs requires courage.  When other people challenge our own beliefs, we are usually so quick to defend them.  We defend them even if they cause us to suffer.  As a warrior we learn not to defend what we believe, and then to challenge those very beliefs ourselves.

 

A soldier's discipline to follow orders becomes the warrior’s discipline to take action on their own command.  It is easier to follow orders as a soldier, because we are threatened with consequences and rewarded for our deeds to motivate us.  A warrior must have the discipline to practice, heal, and train their own mind without someone else providing the motivation with carrots or sticks.  A warrior must exercise their own will and bring it in alignment with their own mind.  This often means going against other people’s opinions of what we should do.  We must have the discipline to follow our own heart even when tempted by another’s opinion.  A guide can support you in your efforts, but if the Guide begins to carry the apprentice, then both might lose their freedom.

 

The soldier's commitment to love his/her country becomes the warrior’s commitment to love him or her self, and then extend that love to humanity.  These are often challenges, and require a strong commitment.  It is common to fall to judgment.  It can be easy to love some people, particularly the people that like us or treat us well.  However, it requires a tremendous commitment to love in the face of those that reject us.  We must be committed to love beyond our own self-serving interests of what it will bring us.  We become committed to love for the sheer enjoyment of expressing love.  This becomes our commitment.  We nourish ourselves with the love we express.  A warrior acts in this committed way, even when challenged. 

 

In my point of view, Jesus Christ was the greatest Warrior.  He had the courage, discipline, and openness to Love unconditionally even as he was being rejected and physically persecuted during his last days.  In those moments, even when his body was in physical pain, the only emotions he felt were from love.  He only saw with the eyes of love. 

 

I wish all who take the journey, Love in every moment 

 

God Speed

 

 

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