Difficulty Making a Choice

Posted by Gary on Feb 18th, 2011

Sometimes we struggle making a choice.  We know we have to, but we don’t know the right thing to do.  Maybe they are difficult because each outcome results in someone getting hurt.  Or each choice is good so we want them all.

Sometimes, when we can’t see clearly what to do, it’s because it’s not time to make a choice.  Sometimes, not all the time, it’s best to wait, and watch.  Observe more closely.  Take the time to look more closely at what you really want.  Take more time to develop clarity about the nuances of the situation and possibilities.

Sometimes by patiently waiting you can watch the people around you react, fidget, and do their drama in the way they do it.  If you sit still, you can see their drama for what it is.  This gives you an extra level of clarity to make a better choice.   When you develop clarity you don’t struggle to make a choice.  You don’t struggle at all.  You just see it.

Of course,,, you have to be able to sit still long enough to get the clarity.   You could say that making wise choices is a developed skill.   Good luck with your practice.

 

Motivation to do the Work

Posted by Gary on Feb 7th, 2011

As we do this inner work of casting out the false beliefs and agreements in our mind we become happier.  And as we become happier much of the motivation we had to do this work slips away.

With less of the motivation, we do less of the work that got us there.  This makes us easier prey to fall back into old patterns.   Why does this happen is the question to ask.

It  is because in the beginning most of our motivation originated from pain.   As we progress, we have less pain so we do not have the painful suffering to motivate us.   Then how can we maintain our practice and stay on the pathway to greater happiness?

As we evolve, then so our motivation will have to evolve from pain to pleasure and love.

New home play assignment.   Go do something fun, that you enjoy, that is pleasurable to you.

Make love with your partner if that fits the assignment.  Create Fun, Laugh, be Silly, combine them.

Then build the desire to feel more of that.

Practice often.

 

 

 

Truth

Posted by Gary on Feb 7th, 2011

Truth often shows up in the form of a Paradox.