A good tool, technique, practice, or philosophy, can help you out of suffering and into greater happiness and love. And when that tool, technique, practice, or philosophy is taken too far, it can become it’s own dogmatic trap that create unhappiness and suffering. That applies to the tools, techniques, and practices I teach as well.
A person’s heart never breaks. However beliefs do,,, and when they do,,, it can be emotionally painful. When a partner cheats on us, or breaks up with us, our beliefs about who they are, what they mean to us, and beliefs about our future break. We call it heart break but it is really a disillusionment of beliefs.
From the perspective I see things from now,,, I am very grateful to the people in my life that broke my heart. Those were the periods of my greatest awakenings from illusions.
As you become aware you see things with clarity. When you have clarity you will see the world is chaotic, filled with, inequities, and uncertainty. With clarity you are aware without a doubt that your future, and the future of the world around you is completely unknown.
The temptation is to try to make sense of the world, or put order to it, or control your world, so that you feel safe. This is to chase the illusion of safety for a single human can not control all circumstances and changes of life.
The real challenge is to remain completely aware that the world and future is unknown to you, and to be accepting of this fact. Acceptance of this fact will make your mind quiet and your heart peaceful.
To find, or in another sense create, a quiet mind and peaceful heart in the midst of a chaotic world with an unknown future is more challenging, and yet clarity reveals it is the only choice we have in the matter of how we will live our lives.
While heading off to sleep I was reviewing my day and concluded the following. I am perfectly crazy. I live in a perfectly crazy world. The perfectly crazy world perfectly reflects my inner craziness where ever I look and go. I am trying to become less crazy. I am not sure I can go so far as to use the word sane. But less crazy seems to fit. I have a very tenuous hold on the less crazy potential. It is just an idea or thought but it has something more to it that isn’t familiar and somewhat odd. It is hard to differentiate the perfectly crazy normal to this very subtle less crazy notion. Yet there is a difference. I am still crazy but I am going to sleep comfortable with this entire story.
………………… and somewhere there is a ripple in the matrix.
Boredom is a problem. Emotional drama is not a very good solution but it is the one we may have learned. At times in the past we may have just gone into drama in order to avoid boredom. Creativity, action, and expressing love is a better solution to boredom. We may not be very practiced at it, but that’s okay, we can learn.
I don’t buy into the Law of Attraction. You don’t always attract what is in your consciousness. You only need one instance to prove a law invalid. Christ had his body beaten and crucified but it wasn’t something he attracted because he had it in his consciousness. He was treated that way because of beliefs other people held in their consciousness
Nelson Mandela spent years confined to prison, but not because it reflected his consciousness. He was held in prison because other people held in their consciousness beliefs of apartheid. You don’t always attract what is in your consciousness. Sometimes you are the recipient of what other people express from their belief system.
If something is a law it operates all the time everywhere. The law of gravity is a law because it applies to everything we know everywhere we can measure and test it. If it only worked sometimes or in some places it wouldn’t be a law. The same with the Law of Attraction. It’s too inconsistent. It’s only a theory that doesn’t hold up under scrutiny. It’s not a “Law.” It’s a Myth of Attraction. If it really worked a lot more people would have what the want.
It’s actually a much harder life if you don’t change the fears and false beliefs that are driving your unhappiness.
The most common comment of resistance that I hear while guiding people through the process to change their beliefs and emotional driven behaviors is: “This is Hard.”
It’s a simple enough comment and we might easily accept it as true. But here’s the trap. It’s a lie that makes the changes you are attempting more difficult.
Yes it is difficult to change beliefs. It is challenging. However to say that it is hard, implies that doing nothing is easier. And this is a lie. It is actually harder to continue to live with the same false beliefs that are driving your unhappiness.
The search for truth is often an iterative search.
Let’s say that you have a lot of false beliefs in your mind and they distort your perception and clarity of life, events, other people, and understanding your self. Let’s assume a number and say that 50% of your beliefs are false and 50% of your assumptions and beliefs are true. If you read a book that is 60-70% truth, it could have extraordinary insights on truth. It could open your mind to more truth and help shatter many of your illusions.
While it can be an incredible book that brings you clarity on so many things, you will still have 30-40% illusions in that book, and in your mind. Perhaps what is more interesting is that the clarity that book gives you might inspire you to faith in everything it says, even those things that are illusions. You become inspired and passionate about a book that is 30-40% illusions even though it gave you great insights. For you it is as if you found something that was “The Truth.”
Now imagine another scenario. Imagine that a person that lives under many more false beliefs than you do. Imagine someone’s mind where 70-80% of their beliefs are false, or distorted by false assumptions. Imagine that they read the same book that has truthful clarity of 60-70%.
Do you think that they will just completely understand and accept the information in that book? The truth of what that person reads will be in conflict with their existing set of beliefs. The ideas in that book will be in conflict with so much of what they already accept as true. The belief system in their mind will reject the ideas on the page as not true. To accept as true the material in that book would mean the collapse of so much of the structure of their belief system. This would be uncomfortable and in an effort to avoid that discomfort their mind would reject the new ideas even though they have greater clarity.
When the mind is full of illusions there is no room for the truth. The existing set of beliefs rejects any ideas that are contradictory to it’s current structure. When in search of The Truth it can be more valuable to empty your mind of false beliefs than to attempt to fill it up with more truthful ones.
For specific exercises for identifying and dissolving fear based beliefs based in the Four Agreements, begin with the free practices in the Self Mastery audio program.