“How long will it take?” they ask.
That’s often the question as one is working through their issues of limiting beliefs, fears, emotional reactions, or sabotaging behaviors. Always the question, “How long will it take?”
It will take a certain number of hours. You can put those hours in early and be done sooner, or you can do just a few minutes a day of change work and have it take many years.
It’s like learning to read, dance, fly an airplane, or play a musical instrument. All of these things will take a certain number of hours before you reach a level. If you want to go further and master more emotional skills and more of your beliefs, it will take more hours. The critical way to measure how long it will take is by how many hours you spend practicing, not the days or weeks of the process. If it takes 100 hours to break through a set of limiting beliefs you can do it in 5 weeks, or you can do it in 5 years. Either way it will take you the same number of hours.
So to answer the question about, “How long will it take before I see the changes I want?”
The answer is a certain number of hours.
This is an excerpt. Full post at How long will it take?
Are people in love with their suffering?
People are not in love with their suffering. Rather I’d say that either it saddens them, or they hate it. In either case their emotional reaction of hate and sadness to their suffering causes them to suffer more.
What is important to breaking this cycle is the awareness that our emotional reactions are not something that we control. But this very idea that we are not in control,,, this frightens people more. So to avoid their fear they cling to the idea that it is reasonable or justified to hate or feel sad about their condition. In effect they close themselves off to the truth out of fear of acknowledging something that is already happening.
Originally posted at Addicted to Suffering
Published at ToltecSpirit.com Guidance based in the Four Agreements for Spiritual Warriors seeking happiness and love.
The challenge of the spiritual warrior is daunting.
A recent email from a client working his way through an emotionally challenging divorce caused me to share with him something about the challenge of a spiritual warrior. In his breakup he is often overwhelmed with anger, sadness and frustration. Outbursts still happen as he does not yet have control over his attention. My reply:
It is a war,,, that’s why we call it being a Warrior.
In the beginning we will lose most, or almost all of the day to day, moment to moment battles for our attention. In a way that is to be expected. The benefit of understanding this is that you will not beat your self up when you fall into a story of drama, anger, or sadness etc. The danger of telling you this is that your judge and victim in your belief system might distort the challenge into being so hard and convince you to not even try.
What will you do with the information that this is a challenge? What will the judge and victim of your parasite do with the same information?
It is a risk to share this with you, and a risk to keep it from you.
My advice… do not measure the progress of your war by the results of a single moment, or even one day.
Some of the bet guidance I can give can be found in the free audio and Self Mastery exercises at PathwayToHappiness.com The program is derived from my personal study with don Miguel Ruiz and the principles of the Four Agreements.
Advice often comes from the Blind. People in emotional pain reach out, to anyone, even those that don’t know how to help. Although they try to help, and intend to help, they don’t. Sometimes they just make things worse.
In a forum someone wrote:
I am very miserbale and sometimes feel like giving up. What are some things that I can do to be happy. Do you know of any websites I could use?….ANYTHING
Are you happy?What makes you happy? — Miserable
One of the bits of advice they got back was:
Think about a warm puppy. Another person suggested to forget about your self for a while and focus on helping others.
Other bits were helpful, but too often people give advice that can’t be integrated. IF this person is really miserable then it is unlikely that they will be able to focus their attention on a warm puppy. They might think about a warm puppy, but jump to the fact that they want one but don’t have one. If a person doesn’t have the skill to focus their attention where they choose, then suggesting that they focus on something positive is not just a waste of time, but setting them up for failure. This will take them on a deeper downward spiral.
If a person is drowning, do you suggest to them that they try the breast stroke?
Then if a person is drowning in emotional suffering there are many good intentions, suggestions, and advice that don’t amount to a life raft or a helping hand. If you don’t have something that you know will help, then don’t throw anything that will help them sink further.