The challenge is not just to love. We’ve all done that quite successfully and easily as children. The greater challenge is to love with awareness that the world is a difficult place, where people are not always kind, or what we want them to be. The challenge is not to love people when they are beautiful, but to love them when they are not.
The challenge is also to love and accept your self, even when don’t measure up to your beliefs about what you should be. This is a spiritual warrior’s challenge.
“The search for Reality is the most dangerous of all undertakings, for it destroys the world in which you live.” Nisargadatta Maharaj
I would say to this that the “world in which you live” is a reference to the belief system of our mind. It is a virtual world of symbolic language and images that we use to understand the outside world of reality. As much as it is a tool to communicating and understanding the Reality, it in effect blinds us from perceiving Reality directly.
It is the dismantling or destroying this virtual world of the mind that can seem frightening, and at the same time exciting in its feeling of liberation.
In the field of the Four Agreements this one is a reminder of “Don’t Make Assumptions”
Boredom is a problem. Emotional drama is not a very good solution but it is the one we may have learned. At times in the past we may have just gone into drama in order to avoid boredom. Creativity, action, and expressing love is a better solution to boredom. We may not be very practiced at it, but that’s okay, we can learn.
I don’t buy into the Law of Attraction. You don’t always attract what is in your consciousness. You only need one instance to prove a law invalid. Christ had his body beaten and crucified but it wasn’t something he attracted because he had it in his consciousness. He was treated that way because of beliefs other people held in their consciousness
Nelson Mandela spent years confined to prison, but not because it reflected his consciousness. He was held in prison because other people held in their consciousness beliefs of apartheid. You don’t always attract what is in your consciousness. Sometimes you are the recipient of what other people express from their belief system.
If something is a law it operates all the time everywhere. The law of gravity is a law because it applies to everything we know everywhere we can measure and test it. If it only worked sometimes or in some places it wouldn’t be a law. The same with the Law of Attraction. It’s too inconsistent. It’s only a theory that doesn’t hold up under scrutiny. It’s not a “Law.” It’s a Myth of Attraction. If it really worked a lot more people would have what the want.
The evangelists stopped by my door this morning. They brought their bibles and were sharing the message of Christ. They were two nice ladies so I spent a few minutes with them. We got to talking about love and one woman said, “That’s what we should do. We should love more.”
Saying that, “We should love more,” implies that we aren’t loving enough. It’s kind of an indirect way of putting your self, or someone else down for not doing what they were supposed to do. I don’t think that was Christ’s message.
His was more like. I love you just the way you are.
People are not in love with their suffering. Rather I’d say that either it saddens them, or they hate it. In either case their emotional reaction of hate and sadness to their suffering causes them to suffer more.
What is important to breaking this cycle is the awareness that our emotional reactions are not something that we control. But this very idea that we are not in control,,, this frightens people more. So to avoid their fear they cling to the idea that it is reasonable or justified to hate or feel sad about their condition. In effect they close themselves off to the truth out of fear of acknowledging something that is already happening.
In the basic quest of morality and ethics “right” trumps “wrong”. In Advances levels of morality and ethics,,,, Love and Respect trump “being right”. The challenge for those who are attached to “being right” is that if they cling too tightly,,, love and respect appear to be wrong.
Sometimes making changes in your beliefs, emotions, relationships, and elsewhere in your life is counter-intuitive.
When you are riding a bicycle,,, how do you turn the bike to the right? You turn the handlebars to the left. How do you change the negative thoughts in your head? We’ll maybe you get the best results in a similar way. Don’t try to push more positive ones on top of them. Sometimes when you do you end up going in a negative direction.
Turning the handlebars to the right in order to turn the bike to the right makes logical sense if you aren’t aware of the other factors like the gyroscopic effect of precession. Don’t know what you are doing when it comes to changing your beliefs or emotional reactions and you are likely to end up goring in the wrong direction.
The Self Mastery Course can help steer you in the right direction. Some of the things might seem counter-intuitive, but they will make more sense when you have more awareness of how belief systems operate.